7 Things You May Be Avoiding When You Procrastinate
Every behaviour meets some kind of need when you do it.
Procrastination is no exception.
So what functions does procrastination serve?
Keep reading for 7 uncomfortable experiences you’re likely avoiding when you procrastinate.
5 Red Flags for Environments that Reinforce Perfectionism
Sometimes, the environments and cultures we grow up in teach us that perfectionism is necessary for safety, acceptance, and success.
In these settings, people get the message over and over again that failure is unacceptable and their value depends on how they perform.
In this article, I explore five aspects of perfectionistic climates and how they are created in families, sports teams, dance studios, and classrooms.
How to Get Things Done When You Don’t Feel Motivated
Waiting for motivation to strike before finally doing something you've been avoiding?
I hate to say it, but you could be waiting forever.
Learn how the downward spiral of motivation works for people who struggle with perfectionism and procrastination.
Plus, get my best tips on reversing this cycle, so you can build momentum for taking action toward your goals.
When Fear of Success Stands in Your Way
Something is holding you back from taking real steps toward your goals.
You're probably already familiar with how fears of failure keep you stuck.
But what about fears of success?
Here’s how fear of success factors into perfectionism and procrastination plus 5 tips for taking action even when it's scary.
Stop Letting Fear of Failure Hold You Back
Often what holds us back from pursuing our goals isn't a lack of talent, time, or resources.
It's fear. Fear that if we try, we'll fail.
Learn more about fear of failure - what it is, how it holds us back, and how to start taking action even when it's scary.
Perfectionism and The Fawn Response to Stress and Trauma
The fawn response to stress and trauma involves a strong desire to please others, seek approval, and avoid conflict.
Find out how fawn responses connect with perfectionism, and get 6 tips on handling difficult situations with more flexibility.
Perfectionism and New Year’s Resolutions
Should you set a new year’s resolution?
Explore the pros and cons of setting new year’s resolutions with perfectionism. With 5 tips for setting goals effectively, no matter the time of year.
Have Trouble Accepting Compliments? Compliments & Perfectionism
How do you feel when somebody compliments you?
Do you appreciate the recognition? Or get super uncomfortable?
Here’s 4 reasons why compliments are so challenging with perfectionism.
Never Good Enough: Core Beliefs and Perfectionism
Perfectionism is informed by a core belief that you’re not worthy or valuable, just as you are.
Learn more about the deep-seated belief of “never good enough” and the role it plays in perfectionism. And get 4 practices to help with uprooting this core belief
The Vicious Cycle of Avoidance & Procrastination
When perfectionism leads to avoidance, and avoidance feeds back into perfectionism.
Understand how perfectionism and avoidance create a vicious cycle that holds us back from getting things done.
How All-or-Nothing Thoughts Lead to Procrastination
All-or-nothing thinking is common with perfectionism. But it’s a huge barrier to getting things done.
Understand how all-or-nothing thinking leads to procrastination, and get 4 tips for resisting these unhelpful thoughts
The “Freeze” Response to Stress: Why You’re Feeling Stuck, and What to Do About It
Have trouble taking action when you’re stressed? Here’s what you need to know about the “freeze” response, including 5 tips for moving through it
How Perfectionism Impairs Decision Making: 7 Tips for Making Effective Decisions
Perfectionism can be a huge obstacle for decision making.
Here are 7 ways perfectionism impairs decision making, and 6 tips for making more effective decisions
Perfectionism & Trauma: Be Perfect, Stay Safe?
For some people, perfectionism is be a trauma response. A learned coping strategy that’s served them well in the past.
Get a better understanding of the links between perfectionism and trauma, along with 5 avenues for working through these issues
7 Ways Perfectionism Can Impact Counselling
The same issues that bring us to therapy often show up WITHIN therapy.
Here are 7 examples of how perfectionism can show up in counselling, and some ideas on working through them.
10 Counselling Goals for Perfectionism
Struggling with perfectionism? Here are 10 goals you can work toward in counselling.
Setting Goals in Counselling: What Can You Work On?
Learn why setting goals matters in therapy and get examples of some common goals for counselling.
The Dangers of “Manifesting” Beliefs for People Living with OCD
Manifesting is a huge theme in self-help and wellness spaces these days. It’s the idea that what we think becomes reality.
But this concept is risky for people who experience obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD. Because fearing that dark or intrusive thoughts will come true can create debilitating symptoms.
Get more info on the downsides of believing in the power of thoughts.
When Routines Become a Trap for Perfectionism
Perfectionism can quickly turn general routines into all-or-nothing, must-do-at-all-costs rules.
Here are 4 challenges that can come up when routines meet perfectionism. And 6 tips for benefitting from routines while staying flexible.
Fear the Unknown? 5 Tips for Tolerating Uncertainty
Uncertainty can be super uncomfortable. Especially for people who deal with anxiety or perfectionism.
Keep reading for 5 tips on learning to tolerate uncertainty